Monday, June 18, 2012

Keep Calm {and let it go}

via Pinterest via praybreathesing via youaresimplywonderful.tumblr
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See what I did there?
I gave credit where it was due...


This hasn't always been my motto.
"Just write"
But after I entered the blogging world, I've adopted this idea.
Today it's the only thing I can do.
Write.

Write about my heavy heart.
Write about my crazy notions.
Write about what's bothering me most.

If you follow me on Twitter and Facebook then you may already know.
Last night, I discovered my content on another blog.
My name wasn't mentioned.
Now, this may sound crazy, but I know what I read.
I know because I wrote it from my heart.
From my soul.
It's about my life.

Sure names had been changed.
Experiences had been manipulated to fit that bloggers life.
But the stories, the incidents...
Well I had read them before.

I know what you are thinking.
Get a grip, lady.
You're not the only mother in the world.
You're right.
I'm not here to proclaim that I wrote the book on motherhood.
I'm not here to proclaim that I know all there is to know about being a mother of two.

But I will proclaim that this brand of motherhood is MY OWN.
That I'm writing this story, because it's MY OWN.
I'm sure there are a million posts about motherhood.
A million more about mothering more that one child.
Millions of  bloggers like us who are writing and blogging our way through motherhood.
And while our experiences may be similar, they would never produce the same result.
They couldn't.
As my friend Zoe would say, this is my motherhood.
And every motherhood is different.
So, when I invite you into mine it's to share experiences.
Share being the operative word.

When I started blogging it was to write.
Not about followers.
Not about popularity.
Not about numbers.
It was and is about my writing.
My writing is the great love affair of my life.
My writing is what makes my world go round.
My writing is my heart.

MY WRITING.
So when I see that it's been "used", "regurgitated", or resembles a 7th grade book report...
Yeah, I'm going to be a little defensive and a lot angry.
My writing is what separates me from others.
It's what makes this blog mine.

So today I'm writing my story with a heavy heart.
But I'm also writing it with new resolve.
To take a road less traveled in my life.
The high road.
To take this situation for what it's worth.
Flattery.
And with the promise of always quoting my inspiration.
To always cite my sources.
And the promise to never make someone feel like their heart and soul
has been copy and pasted.

On the bright side, she got a lot of good comments.
Of course she did.
I wrote it.





83 comments:

  1. Wow. I am so sorry this happened to you Megan! I don't understand why people do this or think it's okay to do this. My heart is with you today sweet friend and I hope this never happens to you again!

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  2. I think you expressed yourself beautifully (as always) and I'm so, so, so proud of you! Keep your chin up and keep writing. Love ya!

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  3. I think your tagline says it all "I wasn't built for motherhood, it built me It's a work in progress" really says it all about your blog...and for someone to claim your life as their own...sigh. Thanks for taking this stand, and setting an example for those of us who only wish we could write something worth stealing...(I know, it's not funny, but it's true). Your example of undeserved grace will go much farther than her lack of class, and hopefully, with all the words floating around, she will receive this grace like an adult and realize that what she's done was hurtful and immature instead of trying to spin it.

    I'm happy to have found your blog (not just your twitter) from this whole fiasco and I'm looking forward to getting to know YOU! (I feel the same way about motherhood)

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  4. I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you. If someone is willing to steal someone else's post that's just disgusting. The whole point of having your own blog is because you're willing to share your own creativity.
    Keep your head up.

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  5. Oh my! Sorry girl! That's craziness! Well..we all know and LOVE you and YOUR WRITING! Keep at it girl.
    Ashley:)

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  6. WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT - wow. Be flattered at this point I guess but NOT cool at all. I am so sorry girl :( Do you need me to bring you a big ole coffee :) I'd much rather leave work & do that than stay here!

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  7. I saw this on Facebook this morning. I am sorry. I would be so angry and sad if this happened to me. I put so much time and energy into each post, I would hate for someone to try to pass it off as their own. Keep your chin up! :)

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  8. that is CRAZY. it's sad that people can't find their own words to express their own life & feelings. what's the point of blogging if you aren't writing your own words, ti makes no sense. but hey, like you said, flattery - it must have been pretty amazing and noteworthy... :) keep your head up! xo!

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  9. You handled this a lot better than I would:) I am hoping she reads this and feels ridiculous!;) I don't take high roads...obviously!!

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  10. I can NOT believe that. That's so disheartening. You walk into this blog world and get so much love and respect from other mothers only to have one slap you right in the face. I'm so sorry that happened to you. If it makes you feel better, confront her. But if not, just remember you have a whole community of women who love and respect you and know how amazing you are :) NO ONE can take that from you!

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  11. I am sorry this happened to you. :(

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  12. I am so sorry this happened to you! But you said it very nicely in this post! You keep writing and dont let no one get you down. Hopefully the person who did this is reading this and feels a little remorse.

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  13. Oh, friend. I am SO SO SO sorry that happened. I know of several other bloggers who that has happened to and it's so disheartening. Unfortunately, people are stupid and do stupid things. And AMEN to what Chelsea said - I completely agree!

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  14. You are a fully classy girl, Meg. Beautifully expressed, as usual.
    Lots of love and support your way <3
    xoxo
    jackie

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  15. Oh no! That is such a frustrating thing to have happen.
    I keep hearing of these things happening and it just makes me
    mad!

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  16. you handled this so much better than i would have. very classy!

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  17. My sweetest (fiery) Megs...So proud of you for this.Sorry doesn't even cover my heart for how this made you feel.I just want you to know reading your blog has made me feel like we are besties again,like we are raising our babies together,grabbing a vodka,I mean,Starbucks together.Just together because that was the best part of us.You made me feel so very hip and loved.Keep writing,it inspires us.It Inspires Me,to keep writing my OWN story within my mother'hood.Chin up sista.....Love you

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  18. Get. Over. Yourself.

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    1. Thanks Kelly. I plan on it. But I take my writing serious even if others don't. I really appreciate your feed back.

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  19. I'm so sorry that had to happen to you. I love reading your posts, even if I'm horrible at commenting on them, and I think it's horrible that someone took your work and represented it as their own. Providing sources can be tedious, but it's definitely important to give credit where it is due. Go treat yourself to a session at the gym and then some ice cream :)

    <3Hima

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  20. Wow that's just...weird! As eloquent as your original post probably was, I still don't see why someone would want to do that. I know I'm an imperfect writer, but I want my blog to be coming from me, not from someone who can write better! Don't let it get you down for long, you've got lots of faithful readers who love to read what you post!

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  21. Pathetic. You, I mean. You're delusional.

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    1. Is this a haiku? Because if it is it's completely amazing and you should sign your name to it. Would you like to guest post?

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    2. Thank you! I'd guest post, but then you'd claim that I copied your 'original' work and well we'd have this whole issue all over again. Also, thank you for making me famous on Instagram. Clearly my succinct comment got to you so badly that you needed reassurance from your misinformed followers. I am flattered.

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    3. Thank you Cory you're one of my first Anon commenters. Sorry, I like to joke around and thought it would be funny. And no I'd never copy your work. I'd let you sign your name to it, gladly. And I'm so glad that you think my 183 Instagram followers makes you famous. Soon you'll get at many hits as Kim K. Thanks also for visiting my blog again. Traffic has been amazing!

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  22. You are an absolute lunatic. Maybe you have serious post partum issues. I think you need to see a doctor and check yourself before you wreck yourself. Nutso, crazy, totally out of this world, you are!

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    1. What is your problem? I'm only posting this as anonymous because I don't want you to try and ruin my blog as well. A blog is for expressing your feelings. And she has EVERY right to be disappointed at what someone did with her words. If you are the one that wrote this...you are seriously insecure and the one that is nutso and crazy. I think YOU need to check yourself. What kind of pleasure do you get in bashing people on the internet? It doesn't make any sense. Grow the hell up and find something better to do than try and ruin other people's lives because yours is already ruined.

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  23. Or you could take this person for her word, assume the best, and believe that she did not steal your work. If this is someone you know and she knows you read her blog too, would she really be so stupid to steal your work and call it her own? If she knew that you would likely see it, do you honestly think ah would just copy you? I have an idea of whom you are talking about and I know she's not that stupid. Nor that thoughtless. Before you call a person out, maybe you should assume the best instead.

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    1. I did. Over email and was given info similar to what you are writing here. I chose not to post them side by side highlighting some lines that were verbatim. I chose to express myself in this way here. I would hope that if some one accuses me of copy and pasting my first reaction would be "I'm sorry, let me look into that further"

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    2. Kaylee Tuttle-ToppingJune 18, 2012 at 2:41 PM

      Why should she apologize or have to "look into it" if she knows that SHE wrote her blog?

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    3. You're right no apologies, but of some one approached you about your content wouldn't you wonder? Perhaps second guess? Work on clearing te air? I would. And that's all I'm trying to say. But you're right why apologize? She can write whatever she wants on HER blog and I CAN WRITE WHATEVER I WANT ON MINE. I will always know what's mine in my heart. Thanks for the perspective and your comments.

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  24. Also, your writing is not ANYTHING special TO want to copy. I am not English major but I have seen better in my sons kindergaten classroom.

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    1. I have never claimed that my writing is special. Only that it's mine. Something I wrote originally. It's good to know your son goes to school with talented kindergartners as they are our future.

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    2. "I am not English major." Obviously. And obviously you thought this blog was something special if you and hundreds of other people chose to follow it.

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  25. Kaylee Tuttle-ToppingJune 18, 2012 at 1:51 PM

    Just because another blogger had a similar experience to you in parenting two children, doesn't mean that she's trying to steal your work or your life. Try googling blogs about mothering two children. There are a crap ton of them. The reason that mothers can bond with one another is through their similar experiences and instead of bonding, you want to put down and hurt another mother, another woman. We have enough trouble in this time, in this society, without having to fight amongst what should be our sisterhood. We should be joining together in our likenesses, not fighting over them. I revel when I find another mother with similar experiences, who is like minded and GETS me. Apparently you're the other type of woman. The mean girl type.

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    1. I never said she was trying to steal my lifes work. As you can see from other commenters, I write for crap. I just read my own voice on the page and was taken aback. I am not as delusional as many think to believe that I'm the only one who would write about motherhood. I also revel when I find another blogger who gets me, and I let them know, and I also let them know when I'm inspired by their material. I'm sorry that you think I'm a mean girl. I contacted this blogger via email and I asked to talk about it. I could have posted both links ect, but instead I wrote how I feel.
      This post is about how I feel, since it's my blog. I haven't used any names, pointed any fingers, or called anyone anything other than a blogger. So I'm no sure why I'm the other type of woman, or a mean girl.

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  26. To be quite honest I think this has been handled on a whole different level that is quite unnecessary. After reading your blog it seems quite similar almost to the word of others I've read, including my own personal letters to my daughters.

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  27. I know the blogger you are referring to and I have read both of the posts in question. As her friend, a mom, and somebody who enjoys writing, I feel compelled to say something. First, that she is an honest woman with loads of integrity and would never copy someone else's work. Second, that the only way you can claim ownership on a topic like this would be if somebody had copy/pasted your words. This IS your motherhood, nobody would argue that. The fun thing is, motherhood is a VERY COMMON EXPERIENCE. Many of us love writing about it. Most of us love reading about it BECAUSE we share so many of the SAME experiences. The parts that both of your posts have in common reflect my experiences to a tee. Had I written about the same topic, it's likely I would have shared the same observations. The rare instances of similar phrasing are due to the fact that they are common phrases that we all use! I could go on and on, but my point is I'm hurting for both of you. For her b/c she has been accused of something she didn't do. Not just privately but through social media and here. Maybe we need a bullying course for bloggers and not just teenagers anymoore. I hurt for you, b/c I think you are missing out on an important part of this mom thing by attempting to claim your share of it. The things moms go through are COMMON. SO COMMON. The little people who put us through them are UNIQUE. Your experience is unique b/c of THEM, not b/c of the actual experience. I hope in the future you are able to see the beauty in the fact that everything you write about has been written and will be written again, b/c it's a sign that you are part of a very special community of women lucky enough to call ourselves MOM.

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    1. This truly took the words right out of my mouth. Couldn't have said it better. Hoping everyone can come to an adult understanding of all of this and put the hurtful words aside!

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    2. I didn't think that I had used any hurtful words above. I was just describing how I felt about this situation. I have not used any names or called anyone any names. I haven't used any negative ammo other than the negative feelings I had toward this situation. I understand completely that most of us experience very similar situations during motherhood, but ususally those experiences are unique to the individual. I can only argue that. Perhaps I'm wrong and we did and do have the exact similar situations in our homes and that our motherhood experiences are exactly the same.

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    3. Dylan,
      Thank you for your comments by the way. I do not understand why some people think that I'm bullying this person or running a smear campaign. My first thought was to provide both links and let readers and followers come to their own conclusions. But what would that really solve. I did question her content over email, and I was given an explaination that I was in the wrong to even think this. Perhaps I am. Perhaps I'm delusional and nutso like some commenters think. That's fine. But I did print out both posts. Side by side, and read them. I even got a few second opinions. If this is something that needed to be cleared up it could have prior to my post. It wasn't, but instead of providing links, name calling, ect. I decided to write a post about how I felt. That is how I felt, just like her post in question is about how she felt. Since it's ok for her to write what she wants on her blog, it's ok for me to write about my feelings about this situation here.

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  28. Reality check: a lot of people write. A lot of people write from their heart. That's no unique thing. Motherhood is a broad subject. So somebody wrote a similar idea...it happens. I see it all the time. I have seen plenty of posts like yours. This is blown way out of proportion. I think the comment up there "get over yourself" says it all. But clearly you've let it go...

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    1. I know this is not unique. I know I'm not the only mother in the world, but I do know when I see my work somewhere else. I'm sorry I'm so delusional and this post was my way of getting over it. And this is the first time something like this has happened. But thank you sincerely for being my first anonymous commenter. It means I've made it!

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    2. But that's my point. "Your work" includes a few topic headlines & a format mixed with a topic that is so commonly used, you CANNOT call them solely yours. The only thing similar are a few headlines, like "don't sweat the small stuff." Did you claim the rights to "don't sweat the small stuff?" That's the problem here. You've made this out to appear as though your entire blog entry was copied, when in reality there were a few similar (common) lines, that's all. Again, blown way out of proportion.

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    3. And fyi - please don't lump me with the above "anonymous" poster. While I disagree with you, I don't name call. I did not call you delusional or crazy, nor do I think you are.

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    4. I understand what you are saying completely. And I would love to go, line by line and let you know what I'm upset about. I don't claim to have the corner on the motherhood market. And I agree this has gotten way out of hand. All I wanted to do was post how I felt about this situation. I felt that something I wrote had been used with minor changes. But I'm so glad for commenters like you that put me in check and make me see a bigger picture. You are so right. I would never claim to have invented "don't sweat the small stuff". It would be like saying I invented the internet. But I am surprised that we stopped sweating the exact same small item.
      Again, I'm not running a smear campaign, if I was, I would have provided both links. All I wanted to do was write what I was upset about. That's how I work out what heaving on my heart and on my mind. This place is like a therapy session (that's what my BF calls her blog and so I should mention that I didn't invent that saying). Thanks again for your comments and perspective. They are appreciated.

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  29. I just L.O.V.E how Miss Anonymous left so much to say. But....left her name out. What a coward. One can only assume she is the douche who stole your work,NO? Or how about Kelly, who so eloquently put it into 3 very complicated words, you must be a best selling Novelist,No? Or Kaylee...Trying to pass off full blown Plagiarism as (relating to one another) Really? Talk about delusional and crazy.Or how about Corinne,who fits the above Kaylee's description of the (mean girl type) when instead bonding through similiar experiences like Kaylee writes, you attack her? So sad at the day when human beings can't own a mistake and apologize but would rather lie to others,more importantly,continue to LIE to themselves.Karma is a b*tch ladies, that sh*t will wait for you..just saying...

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    1. In no way were my intentions to be a "mean girl," but simply to point out curiosity in taking ownership over the subject. I agree that some of the comments on this are getting out of hand. Regardless of the origination that fueled this back and forth argument I think it's to a point that respect has gone out the window. I say agree to disagree an let bygones be bygones.

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    2. I left my name out because I didnt know there was an option to enter my name...im the anonymous, my name is Sarah Schulz from Darien, NY if you wanna check out my FB. Im not worried at all to give my info as I said I wasnt aware that I could.

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    3. oh golly i forgot that i was penning the next great american novel. oh wait- i'm not. i'm commenting. ON A BLOG. holy sh!@ you guys take this way too seriously. i get it that someone stealing your work is upsetting. it's yours and you feel violated. but as several people have pointed out and i hope you will remember in the future- motherhood,and the experiences surrounding it are pretty darn common. and i would venture to say that most of your observations would be shared universally from tribal women to high rise dwelling millionaires. i realize your feelings are hurt because your words are not as unique as you had once thought. that stings. but as i said before- get over yourself. get over it. move on.

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  30. Well said my love. Keep your head up and keep writing. I've said it before, you have a great story to tell and I for one love reading it. And I am so so sorry you have to go through this. Love you Megs xoxo

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  31. @Zoe - I am one of the anonymous commentators. Obviously there are several. I don't know their story but sorry I don't have a blog to leave as reference. I could give you my name but would you believe me? Just telling it like it is. I'm sure the blog author can tell who is viewing and posting & can see at least that I'm not the other blogger. Don't accuse unless you know the facts. That goes for the author of this post too.

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  32. Kaylee Tuttle-ToppingJune 18, 2012 at 2:34 PM

    That's actually VERY funny, Zoe, that you wouldn't mention the comment about how the blogger in question wouldn't repost someone's work when she knows that person reads her blog. And Corinne doesn't sound like a mean girl at all, it sounds like she was trying to say the same thing I was saying, that Megan is not as UNIQUE as she wishes she was.

    And I also love the assumption that the anonymous commentaries must have been from the person who "stole" the work in question. You know what they say about people who assume things. . .

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    1. I've never claimed to be unique or wish to be. I do wish to be a writer... And that my writing whether it be her or in print be respected as such!!

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    2. Kaylee Tuttle-ToppingJune 18, 2012 at 2:48 PM

      Don't you think that perhaps she wishes the same thing, that her work be respected? How would it make you feel if someone claimed YOUR work was theirs and then ran a smear campaign against you? When you KNOW that you wrote it from your heart?

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    3. I'm not running a smear campaign. How do you even know who I'm talking about? I've attached no links. I've dropped no names. So how are you sure?
      As for the respect for her work, thanks for that. You're so right! I should be thanking her for all this traffic. I'll be better at reapecting other bloggers work. I guess that's why mine isn't respected now.

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    4. We do support our mommy friend who has obviously been crushed by this as she once respected you. I think this has all been handled poorly and you do have a right to post what you would like on your blog in retaliation, but be reminded that by venting publicly and allowing public comments, drama is pretty much invited. It reminds me of those sarcastic posters you see people post on Pinterest and Facebook about not wanting drama so let's post about it. I respect any momma out there making their experiences known and public to share with others going through similar experiences so that we can come together and know that we are not alone in our joys and fears. Each person is different in their view on things and that being said I personally don't understand why you were so offended to see similar experiences being written about, but I validate your feelings and accept that you were obviously upset by this. Rather than repeatedly being negative back and forth lets learn from this and move on with life.

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    5. Awesome. And you are right. I knew when I posted this that I would be met with opposition. I don't claim to be right, heck, I could be completely off base, but this is how I felt in the moment. And this post was not retaliation. No way. Retaliation would be to post both links. I didn't want to do that. I'm sorry your mommy friend has been crushed. I was crushed too, and I thought that I made a pretty solid attempt to make amends over email. I wanted to talk about this, but there was little back and forth. Surely I could have posted them both, surely I could have put myself out there more. I could have brought it to a vote (which is super childish, right?). All I wanted to do was write my feelings, which I did, without name calling, without in your face disrespect to your mommy friend. I'm sure the only way you found me is through her. And

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    6. And I'm glad you did. I appreciate all your comments and that you signed your name to them. Thanks for that.

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  33. So because I thought my oldest was huge when I brought home my newborn and told people that does that mean I copied you also? I'm a mommy to 2 also and I know if I wrote a post about my experiences they would have sounded pretty similar to both posts.

    Do not think you are the first person to have these thoughts and you won't be the last. It's funny how being a mommy can lead to the same thoughts and words but it is sad how you don't understand that.

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    1. You are right thanks for your perspective. I'll try to remember that in the future. Perhaps I am delusional and nuts.

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  34. I want to take a moment and thank all the comments here today.
    This post was just about how I felt, in this situation. I just wanted to get this off my heart and out of my mind.
    Perhaps I am delusional and nutso to think that I'm the only one who could write a post describing my point of view. That I would be the only person to feel these things. I'm sure many of you, if you read the posts, you too would nod your heads and say "exactly".
    Was I surprised, shocked, angered, and unhinged to a point, yes. Do I need therapy or am I suffering from some serious PPD, no I got that handled. I have tried to set the record straight directly with the source, and because of many of these comments I have tried again. I have also replied back to many of the comments here, but I think that this has taken on a life of it's own.
    Sure we should all be able to write what we want. And if it sounds similar, then I will take the advice of Miss Anon, and get. over. myself. She's right, why should I be the only one to write what I want.
    I will leave this post with a better knowlege on how to handle situations like this.
    I will also leave this post with the idea that I'm surely mature enough to take the advice to get over myself. I'm just one blogger out of a million. I apologize to any of my readers if I came off arrogant and self absorbed. I also apologize to any other readers that were here today if this was the first post they ever read from me.
    Also to the Anonymous commenters and to the commenters who provided their name as well as some much needed perspective, thank you.
    I have been taught a valuable lesson today.

    Happy Blogging,
    Megan

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    1. OH Megan!!

      I don't see you calling anyone out in your whole post, or even in your comments.

      I sit here shocked. The fact that you wrote how YOU felt about a situation that was/is happening to YOU and how YOU were then attacked.... that's absurd! Well, not really, because unfortunately it happens. I'm not shocked about a chance of plagiarism that might've occurred (because that unfortunately happens too), I'm not shocked by how you expressed yourself, I am shocked by the hurtful mean comments. #wtf? #seriously #yesIusehashtagswheneverIwant #getaLIFE

      If you don't like Megan's content/blog post above, move on and keep your mean spirited comments out.

      You're taking the high road indeed by even addressing the people above who commented with such hate. Name calling? Really? They don't deserve your time or attention. The only thing to have kept them from writing mean comments would've been to not post about the situation at all. I'm glad you did, because YOU obviously needed to for yourself, and remember friend that's all that matters.

      Keep on, keeping on Momma! XOXO

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  35. Dear Megan, and everyone - I AM an English teacher. And I read both posts. So, let me tell you all what plagiarism really is:

    PLAGIARISM IS: the "close imitation" and publication of another "author's language, thoughts, ideas, or expression." {via Wikipedia - because, no, I did not write that entire definition myself. I used some parts of it, which is why I cited my source.}

    PLAGIARISM IS: NOT CHANGING the words or ideas ENOUGH TO MAKE IT YOUR OWN.

    Perhaps the other blogger out there really had good intentions. In fact, let's assume, like Megan, that she did. Let's assume she saw Megan's original post and was INSPIRED to write her own. All it takes is one tiny link. One side note. "Hey, I read this and felt inspired to write my own list." This other blogger chose not to do that.

    As a teacher, that other blogger would have gotten a zero on that assignment and a detention for cheating. Immediately when you read that blog post you think, "I've heard this before." And some lines WERE copied and pasted. If a student even copies one line out of a text, it is necessary to cite it. And guess what - even good students make mistakes. Even nice, friendly bloggers, like Lindsay, make mistakes. It's too bad she didn't take ownership of it though. It's too bad she just didn't give one little link to say where her inspiration came from. I, too, 'Googled' "raising 2 kids" and interestingly enough, could not find another source that was similar in voice or expression to these two posts.

    Some of you are correct - there is a lot of CONTENT on the web - just WHO can be called original anymore? BUT, you are the only one with YOUR UNIQUE VOICE. And that is what is being protected here. That other blog post was too similar. Enough said.

    Megan, thank you for sharing your feelings and for reminding us as bloggers how important it is to cite our sources. You handled yourself in a very classy way. Thank you.

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    1. So much for keeping the author in question private. Looks like you just sold her out.

      For one, this is not a classroom. It's the internet. For two, Megan expressed that she emailed this person back and forth. That means there were conversations with this other blogger - a whole other side that all of these readers are just taking Megan's word for. The other blogger has decided not to participate publicly (which obviously some of her friends she expressed her hurt feelings to are mad for her because we know her and think this is way unfair)so her side isn't heard. Nobody knows what was said back and forth, or what was said in defense. The other blogger didn't provide a link because she didn't copy anything, plain and simple. She shouldn't need to. They were her own personal experiences on her own personal blog. She did not commit plagiarism because she had no knowledge of this post. Now, maybe if Megan had come to her instead of posting publicly where she could see (and this was pre-email) perhaps she would have been more receptive and said, "wow, these are similar - I'm sorry I had no idea" and maybe she'd give a shout out, who knows. But she was falsely accused of something she had no knowledge over, and that sucks.

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    2. Thanks JD, but I did do that prior to writing this and that is not the response that I got. Nor do I believe she would want me to publish her response. I did question it and I was told, and I'm paraphrasing that "what was I thinking and do I think I've covered the corner on motherhood". I don't think I do, but again I did email.

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    3. I wasn't suggesting you should. You skirted around the bulk of my point, but okay. Bottom line, you accused her of something she didn't do and handled it poorly. You're even still tweeting about it sending people to her blog. Not exactly "letting it go".

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    4. I haven't sent anyone to her blog since emailing her again this afternoon. But noted. I will curb my twitter usage regarding this issue. Thanks for commenting. And I think that I i could have handled this in an even worse way... But this is the way I have chosen.

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  36. Our blogs are places for us to express ourselves, we are supposed to be able to rant and cry about things that we need to. This is your blog Megan, and you are absolutely allowed to state your opinions and feelings! People attacking you because of it are just taking offense to something they shouldn't.

    You didn't state any names, link to any sites, or say anything in this post that would let an outside observer know who you were talking about. I'm so sorry this happened to you.... I love the internet, but it has problems sometime. Keep your head high!

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  37. After reading all the comments on this post, I felt compelled to put my two cents in. As someone who has been a victim of plagiarism for over 3 years, I understand how frustrated, upset, hurt and violated you must feel. And this post is merely reflecting your emotions. You have not bashed anyone. Most of the commenters here (myself included) have no idea who you are referring to.

    Please do not let the mean (yes, they are mean. you are not.) and ignorant comments of others get to you. Yes, we are mothers. Yes, we have the same experiences. But do you know the chances of two people writing the same exact sentence? It's like one in a billion (maybe more. I can't remember the exact figure since I read about it a few years ago). So for anyone to say you're a crazy, lunatic for thinking someone stole your words is just plain asinine. It happens all the time, especially in the mommy blog world.

    There are lawyers that handle online content theft, copyright infringement and plagiarism. Keep that in mind should this person continue.

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    1. Couldn't have said it any better than Leilani. You've handled this situation well, Megan! I'd have felt, done and reacted the same, had I been in your shoes. I just hope that it doesn't happen again. xoxo

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    2. Yes, well said Leilani! I think you've handled this situation as best you could, Megan. You are right to feel the way you do. Hopefully, regardless of what she said/emailed, she has learned a valuable lesson here. The readers who know you, know your heart. Don't let one person get you down. xoxo, Much love.

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    3. Ditto on EVERYTHING Leilani said. You know who your true supporters are.
      We just talked about Negative Comments at the EleVate blog conference too...There will always be Haters.
      Love you Girl!

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  38. WOW! This was enlightening and terribly sad to read through. Megan, I may not understand the entire situation -- but your feelings are real. Keep writing and sharing from the heart. -xo Kelly @ LiveLaughRowe

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  39. The angry people are jealous. And jealousy equals weakness. You are one strong amazing writer. If you see every negative thing people have been saying, you have been nothing but kind and sweet. DOn't let them get to you. They are looking for a reaction because they have nothing better to do with their lives.

    You are an amazing writer, and your readers and supporters will always know it and will have your back.
    ♥ xoxo.

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  40. OH my GOODNESS Megan! First of all, I am so, SO sorry this happened to you! I cannot say that I fully understand how much this hurts, but, being a blogger myself, I would've been outrageous if someone had done this to me. Hang in there girl! You have handled yourself EXTREMELY well, and I truly admire you for that.

    Second, "Anonymous" missy over here is RIDICULOUS. It makes me SO mad that someone would even take the time to say that! Again, I TRULY admire you for handling this. "Anonymous" needs to move out.

    You are an amazing writer and I know how difficult this must be for you. Don't let the other commenters' words bug you - I am astonished that someone could even say that, publicly even. You are a beautiful person and are so much better than them.

    Hang in there and be the great mommy you are!

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  41. man oh man, that takes a whole lot of nerve ... and mean cells in the body. why the heck would someone do that? I don't know the answer, but what I do know is that I LOVE your last two lines.
    Of course she did.
    I wrote it.
    bahaha. you are awesome.

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    1. p.s. I got my first mean anonymous comment a couple of months ago. I seriously almost quit blogging because of it. and then I realized that I love blogging. and I disabled my "anonymous comments". and I haven't gotten a mean comment since. :)

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    2. Lol! Thought about it, but at this point why? Maybe next time! Lol. Thanks for stopping by!

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  42. So sorry that this has escalated so drastically. Becki from Whippy Cake gave some great advice at the conference. "Wake up in the morning and decide to give your haters something to hate today!" Love you girl!

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  43. So sorry this happened Megan!!

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  44. I am SOO sorry for you Megan! I would just DIE if someone did that on one of my posts! You are handling this AWESOMELY! Keep it up! I would never be able to be as polite as you are to Ms. "Anonymous" over there! You are sooo awesome!! Keep it up!

    <3<3<3<3<3 XO Good luck!

    Sarah

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