This week... {Three Things Thursday}



New year. New me. New you. New goals. One major goal this year is to engage this wonderful blogging community better. What better way than to begin a new link up with some blog friends! Together, the three of us came up with Three Things Thursday. Just three things to talk or write about. Five seemed like too many and "one thing" was like we weren't even trying! So any three things that are on your mind. Any three pictures from Instagram. Three complaints about your day/week. Three of your favorite treats. Seriously. Any three things! So write it. Publish it. Yell it from the mountain tops! 

Just be sure you come back and link it up here!


For some extra fun follow us on Instagram for some three things posts! 

Use the #threethingsthursday, and let's start talking!

Today we've invited Alissa from Diary of an Addict to join us. Alissa is a Southern California #GirlBoss with an eye for style. When she's not busy with her business Pollinate Media or writing for her fantastic lifestyle blog, you can find her on Instagram with the cutest kids in the west! Thanks Alissa for blessing us with your blog knowledge and your presence! We are so lucky to have you!!


Three things this week:


On Saturday the Hubbs helped me pick up 400 cases of Girl Scout cookies. There are 12 boxes per case so... You do the math. It is officially cookie time and let me tell you people are losing their damn minds for some Thin Mints. I have to say I don't mind because all the money goes to the troop. Cookies take six weeks and for most leaders it feels like six years. Still all jokes aside it goes for an excellent cause and we are able to make scouts available to girls whether they can pay or not. Which is pretty awesome.


This damn book. I'm not a fan of Sci-Fi., but I read about The Martian a couple of years ago in Entertainment Weekly when it was being made into a movie. It sounded interesting, but also kind of boring. It didn't seem like my kind of book or movie... Then I saw the book with the movie cover at Target, and I'm a sucker for movie covers. Then it's Matt Damon, and really, how do you say no to the boy who will always be Will? Then I opened the book and said I'll try a chapter and see... Ten chapters later I couldn't put it down and could have, I would have read all night! Hoping to finish it by Sunday so I can watch the movie!


This girl. This one right here. She pulled her tooth out again, all by herself. She had been working on it for days. I had been helping too, but she was too afraid to let me pull it. So finally Monday night it was just bugging her too much and she just pulled it. Her exact words were, "I got it" and held it up for me to see. No blood. No tears. Just pride. 
The next morning she walked in my room with her two dollars from the Tooth Fairy and deadpanned,
"All that work and all I got was two dollars".
Guess the Tooth Fairy needs to up her game!
I took this picture the next day because I cannot get enough of this giant hole that little tooth left. I just want to freeze this face for awhile. With the wild hair and that hole where a tooth will grow in before I know it. Everyone has a picture like this from their childhood, messy hair, missing teeth. It's like a rite of passage. I just may frame this one. 

There are my Three Things for this Thursday. What's up in your corner of the world?
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What I Read: Anything Goes on a Friday Night


I received an Advanced Reader Copy of this book from the author/publisher in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.

Anything Goes on a Friday Night, written by Sara Daniell, is a book filled with drama on par with an episode of Keeping up with the Kardishians. I’ll be honest, this isn’t the kind of book that I usually read. I’m all for YA fiction, but high school drama isn’t usually the type of YA fiction I dig. Cancer teens, teenage vampires and werewolves, teens killing each other or rebelling the Capitol, or teenage wizards, those are my kind of YA novels. Just a human gal with more problems that Bella Swan and Katniss Everdeen ever had? Not so much. And while this wasn’t my favorite read, this book did have some really great moments. There were great instances of humor and sass from the female lead which is my bread and butter. There was just enough romantic build up and climax that was perfect for any romance novel (Harlequin style I might add, good for you Sara Daniell). There were also characters that were written really well. This just wasn’t my kind of book, but I would recommend it to my teenaged cousin and all her friends.They love things heavy with drama and Snapchat.

So much happens to Elena (Ellie to her friends) in the first nine chapters of this book that I honestly questioned if she would survive the book. I get that teenagers are met with strife, but this just felt like more drama and tumult for one individual to handle. This felt like Real Housewives "Small Texas Town". I understand that there was a level of suspense, drama, and mystery that was necessary to get Ellie to (Spoiler Alert) Finn, but I was waiting for a town devastating tornado. That is like the only plot twist that didn’t happen to poor Ellie.

In case you need a quick rundown of issues that faced dear Ellie and her friends here are a few:
Drug use
Alcohol use
Cheating boyfriends
Ecstasy
Suicide
Divorce
Domestic Violence
The casual use of the “F” word among other curse words
Sex and foreplay (mostly dealing with virginity)

For me, none of these things bothered me at all, but they might bother you. They may also make you think twice before letting your teen read this book. I understand that the target audience for this particular story is 17-34, but some mamas out there may not want their 17 year old reading this knowing what kind of “adult” issues are discussed. 

SPOILER ALERT!!!!!
In the end the best part of this story is the one between Ellie and Finn. The build up, the heartache, the attempt to find their places as individuals and then in a relationship were familiar and relatable . They faced many trials as a couple but those felt organic. Their developing relationship was well written. This was my favorite part of the book.

For all the trials that Ellie faced, I did like her as a character. She didn't always express her anger and disappointment as I may had at that age, but she was a strong character. Good student, tried to remain responsible, and even when she was contemplating making a decision based on her guy, she was still level headed about it. I was disappointed that there was never an adult character in her life that panned out or developed into an ally. I get that sometimes that happens in a teens life, and that may be the reason the book ends like it does (don’t worry, no one dies). Still, I would have liked to have seen one adult (her boss perhaps) step up and mentor her in a way I feel she desperately needed.

This was a quick and easy read and honestly most teens will love it because of the drama. I’m sure 16 or 17 year old me would have loved this book.

For more info or to buy a copy for yourself, click here.



Three Things Thursday {What Stops Me}



New year. New me. New you. New goals. One major goal this year is to engage this wonderful blogging community better. What better way than to begin a new link up with some blog friends! Together, the three of us came up with Three Things Thursday. Just three things to talk or write about. Five seemed like too many and "one thing" was like we weren't even trying! So any three things that are on your mind. Any three pictures from Instagram. Three complaints about your day/week. Three of your favorite treats. Seriously. Any three things! So write it. Publish it. Yell it from the mountain tops! 
Just be sure you come back and link it up here!

For some extra fun follow us on Instagram for some three things posts! 
Use the #threethingsthursday, and let's start talking!


This month on BlogHer, the Writing Lab prompts all have to do with Passion. Makes sense since February is known as the most romantic month. I love writing prompts because sometimes I need a little inspiration when I find myself at the keyboard. I know myself better than to think I could write everyday, but today's prompt really struck a chord. Today's prompt is as follows:

If your work is not your passion, what stops you from pursuing a different field?

You see my work is retail. I've been a retail warrior since I graduated from Fresno State. For years it really was my passion. Then I became a mom and all my "passions" changed. Especially my creative passions. After becoming a mom I discovered I loved to write. Back then it was about motherhood. Today I love to write about everything. It's very rare for me to go a full day without writing at least one good sentence, sometimes if only in my head. This has been happening and developing for over five years. Yes this blog is five years old. During every one of those years I've been talking about writing a book. Every year I say, "This is the year", and every year passes with zero books to show. So what is holding me back? Today I've picked the three things that stick out most, when I really ask myself.

What's holding me back from pursuing this passion? What stops me from just doing it?

1. FEAR
I'm afraid. Of rejection. Of failure. Of criticism. I'm afraid to start and never finish. I'm afraid that I'm not really a writer. Fear grips me every time. Fear talks me out of taking the plunge and writing more than a few thousand words at a time.

2. PROCRASTINATION
I put off writing like my life depends on it. I'll get really motivated and organized and set up a writing schedule for myself and BOOM. I find 1001 things to do. I'll do the dishes. I'll do the laundry. In a moment of supreme procrastination I even folded laundry so I'd have an excuse to skip writing. It's awful admitting that, but it's true. My mother likes to say I do better under pressure, but procrastination and fear are best buddies. Most times I turn to procrastination, when in reality, I'm just plain scared.

3. SELF DOUBT
I still have a hard time saying I'm a writer. Writers get published. Writers win awards. Writers are beloved and iconic. Writers see their work on pages and on shelves. In my mind these are things that are required of Writers. I'm not any of those things, so am I a writer? A good friend asked me once, "Do you put sentences together that people like to read?". Yes I do was my reply. "Then you're a writer", she deadpanned. Still everyday I talk myself out of writing anything major because I'm convinced there is someone who could do it better.

Three big things that keep me from pursuing my passion. Three big things that all have one thing in common...

They are things I can change.

I can be brave and just go for it. Jump off that cliff and into the world of writing. Lose myself in my words and finally send them off to be judged and criticised. I can open myself up and accept rejection when it comes. I can scrap that story and write another, or rewrite until my fingers bleed. I can do those things, I know I can. I just have to kick fear out of the house.

I can make more time for writing. Today in fact I carried a notebook all day and did some of my best writing in weeks while waiting at school pick up. I don't have to sit at a keyboard to write, it's not a requirement. I have even emailed myself intros and story ideas. Yes there will be laundry and dishes and little people who need a bedtime story, but I have to stop putting off what is calling my name. Write it. Just write it and stop procrastinating.

I can tell myself that I'm a writer. I'm going to hit publish and some of you are going to read it. It may not be millions or even hundreds, but it's published and someone somewhere will read it. I can repeat it, over and over so I will believe it. I'm a writer, because its a passion that keeps me up at night, that makes me long for waterproof ink in the shower, and has me finding inspiration in the unlikeliest of places. I'm a writer, damn it,  because I have a story to tell, ahem, stories (plural) to tell. And someone, somewhere will read them. Even if those someones are just my mom and a couple of friends.

I have a passion, it's writing. There are things that hold me back, but they can be changed.

I can change them.

What's your passion? Are you doing it, and if not, what stops you? You can change them, you know.


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What's Up with You? {Three Things Thursday}


New year. New me. New you. New goals. One major goal this year is to engage this wonderful blogging community better. What better way than to begin a new link up with some blog friends! Together, the three of us came up with Three Things Thursday. Just three things to talk or write about. Five seemed like too many and "one thing" was like we weren't even trying! So any three things that are on your mind. Any three pictures from Instagram. Three complaints about your day/week. Three of your favorite treats. Seriously. Any three things! So write it. Publish it. Yell it from the mountain tops! 
Just be sure you come back and link it up here!

For some extra fun follow us on Instagram for some three things posts! 
Use the #threethingsthursday, and let's start talking!

This week we have invited Megan from Shaping up to be a Mom to join us for Three Things Thursday. Everyone say hello to Megan and stop by her blog to see some great recipes, promotions, and weight loss tips. Thanks for joining us Megan! Find her on Instagram!


This week has been kind of a wash. I had the best of intentions of posting more than once. Then life and a Jane the Virgin marathon... Then I read this really excellent book... And you get the picture, but here are a few things that are happening around here this week.

1. No Rey...

I posted this picture back at the beginning of the month. As you can see, there is a wide arrange of force awakens characters... Including Vader... I mean, hello did this toy company even see the movie? Anyway, I posted it because I was so disappointed that Rey was missing. Rey. Who is like one of the main characters and also, I guess to her detriment when it comes to toys, a Girl! For the record she kicks a ton of ass in more ways than one. She is independent, smart, and SPOILER, a surprise Jedi. So where the heck is Rey? I would have bought this set that, even by Target standards, is not cheap. My girls were super excited until Caitlin said, "Where's Rey, Mom?". I myself was outraged and the husband got a little embarrassed when I began to rant and rave about equality and equal pay and seven cents on the dollar and all that jazz. I've read plenty of posts and tweets about missing Rey, but this post has been the best and most eye opening. Are we still really in a spot where toy makers believe that a boy will never play with a girl character? And vise versa? Read this excellent post and then stop yourself from burning your bra.


2. Dressing Room Selfies


Today I wanted to take a moment to show off how much fun I had mixing prints. Sure we were at Kohl's looking for dresses for these monkeys, but I was like, look at me. I'm mixing prints, my hair is dirty and my make up is smudged and I'm still rocking at life. Then the animals got restless and decided that I was just too self absorbed for my own good. Or maybe they are just posing like their mama. Either way we laughed so hard and so long about this! These kids kill me on the daily, but I'm so grateful for them!


3. National Handwriting Day


Most "National (something) Days I ignore. Never this one. I didn't have a chance all day Saturday, but finally late that night I grabbed one of my kid's notebooks and a highlighter. Then I just planned on writing the first line. Then the second came and then... I love to write, anytime and anywhere. National Handwriting Day just gave me a reason to share it on Instagram. I've got notebooks and napkins and even gift bags with little verses just like this. Sometimes I just can't help myself. 

What's going on with you people of blog land? Have three things on your mind that you would like to share? Link up with us. I'm hoping to get back into the routine of blogging next week, and hopefully do so more writing. Until then... I just started another fantastic book! Ugh. See you next week.







Quotes of the Week {Three Things Thursday vol 3}


New year. New me. New you. New goals. One major goal this year is to engage this wonderful blogging community better. What better way than to begin a new link up with some blog friends! Together, the three of us came up with Three Things Thursday. Just three things to talk or write about. Five seemed like too many and "one thing" was like we weren't even trying! So any three things that are on your mind. Any three pictures from Instagram. Three complaints about your day/week. Three of your favorite treats. Seriously. Any three things! So write it. Publish it. Yell it from the mountain tops! 
Just be sure you come back and link it up here!

For some extra fun follow us on Instagram for some three things posts! 
Use the #threethingsthursday, and let's start talking!



Ask anyone and they will tell you that I spend an unreasonable amount of time on my phone. Sometimes when my kids are around, most times when I should be asleep. I've missed bedtime by thirty minutes or more because I got wrapped up in Star Wars memes.

True story.

Scrolling through Instagram and Pinterest this week has blessed me with a few inspirational quotes for 2016. Add in a little gem from my Time Hop and one of my favorite shows and I knew I just had to share these for #threethingsthursday. Each have a special place in my heart, and I hope they make you giggle like they made me giggle!

1. Bitch you are a FAN...
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I get that not everyone is going to like me. That's cool. I'm a big girl now and no longer in high school so these kinds of things no longer bother me. Recently I had to block someone because I didn't want to clog my feeds with passive aggressive bullshit. So silently, on my own, I just hit block and defriend. That's what adults do. Long story short, a steady stream of passive aggression played out on the Interwebs and it was brought to my attention. That's when I took a deep breath, put on my big girl pants and said, "That's why I blocked that shit". Then a friend sent me this and I just about died. Look, if you don't like me, then act like it. Stop watching over my shoulder. Otherwise, can I interest you in an autograph? 

2. We need a reality show.

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Have you ever laughed so hard at a text message from your best friend that the people around you in Target wonder if they should call security? I have. Multiple times. One time, I sent a stream of texts to my best friend and she text me back that she may or may not have peed a little. Once in conversation we both laughed so hard and for so long that there was radio silence for at least three minutes. Let me tell you about my best friend. She is hilarious. She is so damn funny that she will make my biggest nightmare, failure, hardship, ET AL, into the funniest fucking thing I have ever heard. The road also goes both ways. We have, in recent months considered doing a pod cast. 

"Would anyone listen", I asked.

"Does it matter?", she replied.

In my mind we are on a reality show, every day. Especially when she is in Montana shoveling her driveway because snow is beautiful, but as she says, ice is bullshit. More so on the days that we text about our favorite television shows and make up alternate universes for them (because George O'Mally is still alive and doing great work at some Air Force Base in the Middle East damn it). It is rare that I call her and I don't hang up giggling to myself. 

Bravo here we come.

3. Just say NO.


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This showed up in my Time Hop a couple of days ago. I love Girls on HBO. So many people in my life can't get behind it, but I love it. I think it's because Hannah is a writer and completely off kilter in her twenties. Plus it's set in New York and to live in New York was  a dream I had one time. When Hannah uttered this quote, it was over something lame, like going on a hike. In reality though, isn't this a great life lesson? It really is liberating to say no to shit you hate. Why agree to something that isn't going to make you happy? Probably because it's the "new year", and most likely because I'm trying to cut the shit out of my life, this quote, in my time hop was a really good reminder of what can liberate you from unhappiness. Do I want to go running today? No. Do I want to fold all that laundry in the dryer right now? No. Should I? Sure, but right now I'm being a liberated woman... Or something like that.

I hope these quotes inspired you and made you want to be on your own reality show with your best friend. Just say no, friends. But please say yes to this link up. Have three things you want to share? Write it up and link it below. Don't have time for that business? Then share three things on Instagram and tag me so I can check you out!